The ability to love today depends largely on the skills of using modern means of communication, according to the author of a book about romantic relationships in the digital age.
But can the remote contact to fully replace a real, “live” communication? “A modern interpretation of love is the art of communication,” explains Professor Porąbka. Modern “revolution of communication” love is not abolished – despite the critics predicting the demise of a romantic relationship. On the contrary, communication in the era of the digital age particularly focused on “talking about love”, at the joint search of what makes both partners happy, the expert emphasizes.
Love transformeres, taking new forms, “adjusted” under the new situation – is “actualization” of a love relationship. After romanticizing in the early nineteenth century, the psychoanalytic “dramatization” at the turn of the twentieth century and “sexualization” in the middle of the last century, the relationship of the lovers in the days of the mobile Internet are reviewed (rather, restart) again.
“It’s so new, we are located in the center of this process, it is difficult to assess the whole situation: this type of communication seems unusual, sometimes even strange,” says Professor Porąbka. During coronavirus lockdown this process is accelerated, reached a new milestone: romance, equipped now with new forms of communication (video, audio, photos, text, icons) further moved to the virtual dimension. “And did we make this pretty simple, after all, a fair experience we already had,” said the Professor Porąbka.
The smartphone has become the main tool of modern communication, not only lovers, he States: “We all now use apps and messengers – Telegram, WhatsApp, Twitter.” Indispensable during the isolation of steel video, though not all know how to use it all. “Should be like love letter 2.0 – we have to decide themselves, individually,” – says Stefan Porąbka. We can say that romance,”the ability to love” – today largely depend on the skills of using modern means of communication.
“Smartphone” love of the third Millennium is exposed not only to the younger generation. Octogenarian master the skills of virtual communication with the same passion as fifteen, according to the author of a book about communications in the digital age “This love”.
Communication of the new type, allowing every moment to forward messages-texts, share photos, videos, audio messages, requires, however, a different approach to composing messages. “We are constantly experimenting, combining different formats, use different styles – in short, constantly improving in the art of remote communication” – lists Professor Porąbka.
Romantic communication today is via e-mail, SMS, instant messengers and Skype. Someone enough the use of texts in WhatsАpр, others are happy to experiment, surprising each other with new and new items. The correspondence of lovers, in the words of cultural studies, becomes more intense, more dynamic, more sparkling… And even more unpredictable?
As in real relationships (face to face) and in virtual space there are omissions, a heavy burden, “hang” unspoken resentments, misunderstandings or misunderstandings. “It would be possible to conduct a comparative analysis and find out which forms of communication in this respect less successful. Much more important, however, to understand that differences – fleeting, and sometimes even productive if thus allow you to get to the truth,” emphasizes Stefan Porąbka. Correspondence of the new era gives the lovers the proximity, allowing you to remain at a distance, to seek new forms, signs that best reflects their feelings.
“Love letter of the digital age encourage us to think creatively, to create a joint romantic works of art, including not only signs, symbols, pictures or music samples, but elegant language momentum,” says Professor Porąbka.
Experimentalism of the epistolary genre
The language of modern virtual correspondence unquestionably peculiar – often abolished the rules of grammar, “limp” spelling and punctuation, recognizes the Professor. Breaking the rules is a visual example of the appearance of new language elements, optimization of the language. “From a sociological point of view, their use depends on who is talking to whom – from a given environment, group, layer, how such new elements of grammar they are welcomed or rejected. The question here is not about the degradation of language, most of the naturally (historically determined) the process of its transformation,” – said the expert.
Of course, many things could spiral out of control, it happens fairly regularly. But there are pluses: correspondence enriched “visual” components (emoticons, Emoji, icons, gifs, emoticons, photos, video, audio). “They can be considered a new “compound” in grammar, Yes, actually, this is a new version of the grammar – augmented” – says Stefan Porąbka.
Lovers using abbreviations or emoticons, often create their own code of communication, understandable only to them. “Love message to become when it put work and feelings,” says the publicist. A real “work of art romantic communication” a love letter becomes when smoothly into a virtual dialogue of lovers (and loving!).
Sea photos, videos, texts, collages – contemporary messages can, like ordinary paper letters bound by ribbon in the old days, put in a virtual “box” (Dropbox and other cloud storage). If you want, “a love Story” (for example, WhatsApp-Lovestory) can be released and the book – of course in an online format.
Write about love, read and understand…
“It is possible that the classic letter will once again be in the field of view of the modern lovers,” smiles Professor Porąbka in an interview with DW. He letters on paper have not written, but admits that the letter in the envelope may well be one of the formats of the love letter today. Especially for those who love to experiment.
After all, love relationship since the modern era (well over a hundred years) are perceived as a kind of experiment. Love the “smartphone” this understanding of love has again brought to the fore, Recalling the Clarion call to all lovers: talk to each other, write other, read, understand each other. It is important today not only to confess his love, but to be able to talk about it, says Stefan Porąbka.
Lovers also an expert on communications and offers from the beginning to designate the “rules” of this virtual dialogue, answering questions such as: “What we want to send each other? How often? Will there be breaks? Do you have a favorite/favorite “zone of inaccessibility” smartphone? And what does it mean when your phone partner is disabled or not available?”.