Vitaly Kurach: we Have a very low sexual culture, much taboo. I’m talking in medical language, but in social networks I block, accusing him of distributing porn and propaganda dissolute life

Виталия Курач: У нас очень низкая сексуальная культура, многое табуировано. Я говорю на медицинском языке, но в соцсетях меня блокируют, обвиняя в распространении порно и пропаганде развратной жизни

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With a head plunging into the celebration of Valentine’s Day, do not forget that this day is “the dark side”. Doctor dermatologist, clinical sexologist, sex therapist Vitalia Kurach told UNIAN how fatal may be the crack on the lips, why the dependence on BDSM could end badly and low sexual culture in General.

As far as the Ukrainians are careful in matters of sex? As we have a high sexual literacy?

Three days ago I was approached by a 35-year-old man and 22-year-old girl. Now you will understand why I put emphasis on age. They had a very bright violent sex, but the woman didn’t know what else to surprise the beloved. She suggested “baby doll”. She pushed into the anus of the doll with a length of 14 inches, with a head diameter of 6 inches. “Gave birth to” her throughout the day. It was really hard. He held her hand and said, “Hold on. I’m with you”. As a result, women have cracks and ruptures of the perineum, closer to the vagina. The woman not to go to the bathroom, and the man doesn’t understand how to go to the doctor and tell them what happened – they are in another country, contact me in messenger…

I only have one question for such couples: “In life there is nothing left of interest? Nothing else to surprise the beloved?”

She received such injuries due to the fact that baby hard, not silicone, not inflatable. This toy had her all to break the sharp edges. Not the fact that she can conceive and bear children. If you’re lucky, during childbirth this thin wall between the vagina and anus will tear. High probability of defecation vagina. People became disabled due to the fact that he didn’t have sexual literacy.

But can we call this story typical?

Such pairs a lot, just not all talk about it. People who pursue such things, addiction. But we are not primitive beings, not ants, not caterpillars, we are unable to control their desires. If you’re annoyed about the way that I want to kill someone, you can’t take the gun, don’t shoot.

You need to understand where the line is. People, who deal exclusively with sex BDSM, chasing sverhuspeshnaya. She is used to slipcam to a more severe shock, even stronger. But it will end a strike that will kill her. People don’t feel the boundaries of the permissible. Sometimes flirt with suffocation. Such things exist, but the family tries to hide it, not everyone gets the news.

The variety has not been canceled, anal sex is not prohibited. But it should be with the mind, with the proper training. Anal sex should not be frequent: once a quarter, semiannually, not more, otherwise there is a total dysfunction of the muscles of the pelvic day, appears symptoms of stress urinary incontinence, hemorrhoids, pain (before, during and after sex), itching and so on. etc.

What are some common mistakes and misconceptions?

People think that, if there are no visible wounds and blood, infection is impossible. But even cracks on your lips, the entrance gate for any infection. If a woman has a crack on the lip, and the guy shaving, cut myself slightly, this is enough to get hepatitis, HIV.

Even when using a condom can be wound on the pubic area of the guy and cracks the entrance to the vagina. During frictions may open the wound, and that’s enough.

Many forget that oral sex is the risk of infection. At the reception say: “Not had vaginal sex, had anal sex.” And they have an infection. So transmitted chlamydia, gonorrhea, syphilis, HIV, hepatitis b and C, genital herpes.

If we are talking about the rimming, don’t forget about the intestinal microflora. For such stimulation must be hygiene. Our people are not used to it. We after anal sex moving to vaginal, and very absurdly, when the woman in the analysis of the vaginal environment is characteristic of intestinal microflora.

It was very interesting when my colleague optometrist sent me his patient: the woman in the eyes, chlamydia.

How many people are coming to you on February 15?

We are on holidays there is always alcohol. It relaxes, loosens up, people forget about contraception. I had a patient who do not not remember with whom, didn’t know where. He said: “I was driving from Kiev to Vinnitsa… I remember that the sex was oral sex… But with whom?”. He has chlamydia, syphilis.

In General, it often happens that such a man is married, he may have 2-3 children, but he goes to the AIDS center, as a home, and every month for laboratory tests. It appears the syndrome of the troublesome expectation of failure, he’s worried sick and that his sexual organ “will rot and fall off”. Against this background, disturbed erectile function. He avoids sexual contact because of defective erection, and this leads to stagnation in the pelvic organs. The latter translates into the fact that, sooner or later, he begins the prostate, which may become chronic stage. In the end, erectile dysfunction begins to not only be psychogenic but also organic in nature.

And why not go straight to the doctor?

In our country it is not customary to refer to specialists, we go to the grandmother to “vegetal egg”. One of my patient admitted that he thought, well, he was cursed by his mistress. It rolled the egg, rolled… I Zakatali to the chronic stage. And would come a couple of years ago, all would be well.

You can still go to the other, to drink and ask: “have you got…?” But who is to reply will say that ten years is a member only in order to make urination? All say: “Is like a stake”. After these answers becomes even more alarming, suicidal thoughts may appear…

In Ukraine the average man to 60 years uses his sexual organ only in order to go to the toilet. But things may be different.

Women are more reasonable? What mistakes they were making?

The man many infections occur asymptote. Women, often, there is discharge, plus she is a gynecologist, as usual. She goes to the beautician, she is more in sight from the experts, and the likelihood of a hike to the venereal diseases is higher than men.

But women think can not defend themselves, if the partner is a married man. It’s like a stamp in the passport guarantees protection. Few people realize that the “domestic cat” can be an infection that his mistress may not be alone… We live in an age of usedatabase. People come to night club sex at night – the norm. And then: “I thought he was a great guy”.

It is believed that the appearance of a person can determine he is sick or not. And why it is considered that the higher the position, the less chance catch: “How the chief could be an infection?”…

We are drowning in hepatitis C and HIV. Most worryingly, these infections are asymptomatic. And when the symptoms, we are talking about cirrhosis and liver cancer, life goes to the finals.

Young people are more careful about sex?

No. Youth in these matters dark. At the same time, there is not a single virgin in the 8th grade, where students of 12-13 years.

I lecture in schools. And before the first has prepared the information about the cycle of intercourse, menstrual cycle, etc. Tell no interest. Ask: “What do you want to know?” “Only one question. Where in the 13 years I have to get the money for a condom?”.

They boasted to me: “I had 25 guys” – “I have a 53 guy. You are weak”. I’m not saying all are, but this is the bulk. I have heard this from children of normal average families.

Maybe they were just bragging to your friends? Come up with numbers more?

They ask questions, and that questions of women who are sexually active who have this experience.

But adult women vaginal environment protects against protozoa, bacteria, and little girl, everything is open, it is not protected by its physiology. It doesn’t bother her, she thinks not fashionable to be a virgin at 13. In the end, her early inflammatory processes. But if comes to abortion… At that age it will lead to infertility.

A lot of problems and physiological and psychological.

For them serves as a tutorial? Porn?

All learn from porn. People don’t understand that this show is beautifully filmed picture, and realities – other. Now, yesterday, 43-year-old man said: “a woman so hard, she is got so long. 10-15 minutes should be foreplay… And, here, porn, she undressed and you can go in it”. A grown man, and speaks heresy.

We have no sexual education, sexual culture. Instead of unnecessary things at school could do lessons on these issues, and should be separate groups: one for boys, another for girls.

We have a lot of things taboo. Parents don’t talk to kids, and if you say, I don’t know how. There are trainings, you can read about it. But, for example, in social networks I block: I’m talking in medical language, and I’m being accused of distributing porn and propaganda dissolute life.

What is the situation in Europe?

In Europe, too, drowning in infections. If the partner could be a contact abroad, the probability of infection increases significantly. Recently, from Poland has arrived 23-the summer guy with the “flourishing” of syphilis. He was gay, lived there for four years with a guy. Gathered medical history, he – 500 contacts with different men.

And he called me his beloved, “do you Have wounds?” “Yes, I have. But they don’t hurt. Soon heal.” So syphilis and should not hurt! But, where syphilis, you need to look for HIV infection where hepatitis “C”, you need to look for HIV infection, tuberculosis. It’s like a chain reaction.

And what is the recipe for health?

We must do everything consciously. We’re people, not bugs or jellyfish. Abstain from casual sex. Talk about your desires with your partner. Offer to go to the lab, if you respect – go. It can’t hurt to take smears. But you can live openly in the literal sense of the word.

If a partner early in the relationship doesn’t want to go to meet you in such trivia, how to solve serious issues?

I know couples who adhered to such a plan, spent two months together in anticipation of the tests. But when it became clear that they are healthy, they got divorced. Them by the time it became clear that they were not suited to each other. It is better than to gain sexual experience, get an infection and to infect new partners.

Vlad Abramov

Виталия Курач: У нас очень низкая сексуальная культура, многое табуировано. Я говорю на медицинском языке, но в соцсетях меня блокируют, обвиняя в распространении порно и пропаганде развратной жизни

Виталия Курач: У нас очень низкая сексуальная культура, многое табуировано. Я говорю на медицинском языке, но в соцсетях меня блокируют, обвиняя в распространении порно и пропаганде развратной жизни

Виталия Курач: У нас очень низкая сексуальная культура, многое табуировано. Я говорю на медицинском языке, но в соцсетях меня блокируют, обвиняя в распространении порно и пропаганде развратной жизни

Виталия Курач: У нас очень низкая сексуальная культура, многое табуировано. Я говорю на медицинском языке, но в соцсетях меня блокируют, обвиняя в распространении порно и пропаганде развратной жизни

Виталия Курач: У нас очень низкая сексуальная культура, многое табуировано. Я говорю на медицинском языке, но в соцсетях меня блокируют, обвиняя в распространении порно и пропаганде развратной жизни

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